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Muslim Marriage – a Relationship Which Symbolizes Islam and Love

chodirin — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:23:00 +0000

Muslim marriage as in other religions is a sacred institution. It is a moral contract binding a Muslim and a Muslim. Muslim marriages are performed according to the laws of Islamic Sharia. Islamic marriages are arranged marriages in general by the parents. The marriage of the girl’s parents made the man and once with the acceptance of both sides of the engagement ceremony is a fact that still follows through marriage. The Islamic marriage is celebrated by a priest, the consent of the bride and groom to the wedding is. The bride and the marriage agreement followed by the signing of the planned wedding of the bride, groom and witnesses. The Koran, the holy book is placed between them and they are made to see through a mirror. The Islamic marriage is celebrated with the distribution of data and sweets and a big party. In an Islamic marriage intimacy before marriage is strictly prohibited. Following the religion of Islam, a Muslim marriage is the foundation upon which an Islamic society is built.
Muslim marriage is characterized by an offer of a dowry of a Muslim man to his spouse. The main objective is to preserve the economic status of Muslim women who do in the event of incidents. The dowry or dowry may be before or after the failure of the marriage and payment of the dowry paid by Muslim marriage is invalid. Muslim marriages are on the husband to financially support his wife and it is the duty of the husband to support and protect his wife. The Islamic rules of marriage are also that the husband has to ensure that his wife and children have access to Islamic religious materials.
A major difference between Islam and other religions is the practice of polygamy, are Muslim men may marry up to four wives, as long as they protect and support them. Muslim women are not allowed to marry more than one man. The religion of Islam does not allow homosexuality. It allows the marriage of a Muslim, a Jew or a Christian. Although Islamic law permits the marriage of Christian or Jewish woman, which allow a Muslim man is not he, that they are indeed, have inherited from her spouse, unless the spouse of a Muslim man of Jewish or Christian.
Islam lays down strict rules that are the marriage of marriage and family the elements of Islamic society. The moral contract between a man and woman in Islam is bound by certain rules and regulations. Islam clearly defines the role of men in the family and the duty of a woman. Such is life healthy family, the foundation of sound sources outside the form. This would also lead the growth of a strong Islamic society. The ultimate aim is the growth of religion with devout followers of Islam and Muslim marriage is an institution really formatted.

Love And Marriage (And Why The Former Is Not Enough For The Latter)

chodirin — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 05:31:36 +0000

“To the unmarried and to the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. “?
(1 Corinthians 7:8)
The immortal words of St. Paul, who quite possibly had experienced the pain of separation and divorce first hand prior to penning these words, and who certainly dealt with relationship breakdowns in every church he pastored.
I seem to be at that stage of life now where all my friends are getting divorced. I’ve long passed that stage where all my friends are having their 21st’s. And I’ve passed the stage where they are all getting married, and even the one where my friends are all having children. Now I’m up to the ‘all my friends are getting divorced’ stage. I suppose the only one left after this is the ‘all my friends are dying’ stage. Not much to look forward to really.
Of course in terms of divorce I led the way. I managed to stuff up my marriage long before almost any of my peers. It’s nothing to be proud of, but at least it means that no one needs fear that I’m going to judge them. Who me? I don’t think so.
The disturbing thing for me at the moment is that it seems to be all the couples that I’ve most looked up to as couples that are now falling apart as couples!
When it come to some of the couples I know – such as where the guy deliberately gets the girl pregnant because he figures that having a child will give him the motivation to give up is heroin habit – I sort of expect those marriages to last only a couple of years at best. And yet it’s not those couples that are falling apart. It’s the marriages made up of men I admire for their integrity and courage, who are married to women who are loyal, nurturing and understanding. And most of these people are good, solid, church-going Christian folk. It’s not supposed to happen this way!
I was talking to a girl recently whose relationship had only just broken up after some 20 years of marriage. She was not a part of the church and said that she’d never be. For her the final proof of the non-existence of God was the way in which men and women had evolved with an in-built incompatibility. Her analysis was simple but profound. Men have evolved as creatures that need only to eat and mate. Women have evolved as creatures that need to nurture and nestle. Hence, not surprisingly, we find that men can’t handle monogamy and that women can’t live without it. Marriages are thus biologically doomed to failure from the outset, and the statistics on modern marriages would seem to bear her out. How could a loving God have created men and women in such a way that they were genetically geared towards their mutual destruction?
It’s a good question. Every male knows that his biological drives are not geared towards monogamy ? not lifelong monogamy at any rate. Conversely, it is unrealistic to expect women to settle for anything less than monogamy in today’s society. Does this mean that God is cruel, or is there something in the whole marriage concept that we’ve missed?
I wonder if at the heart of the problem is the assumption that we all make? That marriage is supposed to make us happy. Indeed, I suspect that most of us believe that the institution of marriage was brought into being for the very purpose of making us happy.
Weren’t we all brought up to believe that love and marriage go together like horse and carriage, and that the phrase ‘they got married’ should generally be followed by the accompanying phrase ‘and they lived happily ever after’? Perhaps that’s the problem. Perhaps we need to look beyond musicals and fairy tales to find a basis for our adult relationships.
I don’t think any of us seriously imagines that our institution of marriage came about because some individual had a ‘bright idea’ one day about how he could make everybody happy. Marriage is a social institution, and social institutions are developed because they serve a social purpose, not because they bring personal fulfillment to certain individuals within the community. Whether or not you believe God created marriage makes no difference. If He did, God did it for the sake of the community as a whole and not for the sake satisfying every individual’s social, emotional and sexual needs.
It makes sense when you think about it. What is the purpose of marriage? To create a stronger society. Strong marriages create strong families who build a stronger community. Marriages contribute stability. They contribute structure. And most importantly, marriages contribute children.
Read through your Old Testament and you’ll get the feel for what marriage is all about. Marriage is all-important because without marriages there are no children and without children there is no army. This is why baby boys are more valued than are baby girls. This is why gays get such a hard time. This is why childlessness is such a curse, and why polygamy is a far better alternative than singleness. It’s not because the individuals involved prefer it that way. Marriages are there for the sake of the community first and foremost. If an individual finds satisfaction in his or her marriage, then that’s a bonus.
So how come every time someone says ‘I’m not happy in my marriage’ we treat it as if something is horribly wrong? If someone expresses dissatisfaction with other social institutions, such as the government or the taxation system. . we don’t normally get too worked up. Maybe it should be the other way round? Maybe when we hear someone speak of their joy in marriage we should react as if they were speaking of their love of Queen and country. . giving them a sort of quizzical smile that expresses admiration without empathy.
I suppose the truth is somewhere between these extremes. Nobody would deny that the institution of marriage can be of some assistance in helping us to satisfy our individual social, emotional, and sexual needs. The truth is though that no marriage is ever going to satisfy all of those needs and desires. We human beings just weren’t created to have all our needs for companionship, security and intimacy met by one other solitary individual. We need a community.
This brings us to the positive side of the marriage-community equation. Marriages exist for the sake of the community as a whole. That’s the bad news if you thought that your marriage existed for the sake of your individual happiness. On the other hand though, the community exists to meet those needs we all have as individuals. That’s the good news.
Our individual needs for companionship, security and intimacy can be met. They just can’t be met by one solitary person. We have to learn to draw upon the group for our sustenance, and find support and affection from a variety of people within the community. I think that’s a large part of what church is supposed to be about.
So where does this leave us? Is there any hope for the modern marriage? Not so long as people look to marriage as a means to making all their dreams come true. Not so long as individual men and women look to their partners to satisfy all of their social, emotional and sexual needs. Not so long as we demand that our marriages make us happy.
Yet what would happen if we all began to approach marriage in an entirely different way. What if we began to look at our marriages as being the most significant contribution we could make to the broader community?
What if we saw the importance of our roles as parents in terms of the great good that could be achieved in the community if we bring up our children to be strong and capable? What if we stopped assessing our partners and our children in terms of the amount of satisfaction they bring us, and were able to see those relationships as being our gifts to humanity? Perhaps then we’d find ourselves saying things like ‘well, I don’t get on brilliantly with my wife, but I think we’ve managed to achieve some fine things together and that the world is a better place for our union, and perhaps that’s more important than my individual happiness’.
OK. That’s a long way from where we’re currently at in this society, but I have a feeling that it would be a better place to be.

Give Your Mom A Gift That Shows Your Love

chodirin — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 05:14:15 +0000

Do you ever find yourself thinking that you’re turning out to be just like your Mom?
You look like her, you walk like her and you talk like her (no matter how much you don’t want to!)
She’s just as much a part of you as you are of her. So how do you give her a gift that shows your love to her and helps strengthen your bond?
Well, it’s not easy. But with a lot of thought you can give a gift to Mom from daughter that will show her how alike you both are and how that only continues to grow with time.
So when you set out to find that perfect gift to Mom from daughter, you need to keep in mind what your own tastes are evolving into. Do you like cooking? Chances are you found that love through your Mom. Do you like to sew? Same thing, you probably inherited that enjoyment from your Mom.
The same goes with jewelry. Save for a few pieces here and there, you probably have similar tastes when it comes to the jewelry you like to wear. So when you’re looking for that perfect jewelry gift to Mom from daughter, look at the things you like first. You will be sure to find something that you like, and that your Mom will love.
Are you a fan of sterling silver jewelry? Take a look at the vast amount of sterling silver jewelry pieces out there to help make your gift choice. There are sterling silver necklaces, earrings, rings, bracelets, pendants-you name it, there is a piece of sterling silver jewelry for it.
Necklaces and rings are an easy choice when it comes to choosing sterling silver jewelry for your Mom. They can have a wide variety of stones inlayed in to the jewelry with your Mom’s birthstone. Hey, why not get both your Mom’s and your birth stone put into a piece of sterling silver jewelry? It’s a choice that will be sure to mean so much to her.
If your Mom likes earrings, why not find a pair that will help her bring out her youthful side? Flexible hoop earrings are a good choice for this very purpose. Flexible hoop earrings are an easy accessory and they match with everything in your Mom’s wardrobe.
Not only that, flexible hoop earrings are fun without being too over-the-top. They come in a wide variety of styles and sizes. There are even flexible hoop earrings in many sterling silver jewelry collections. You can even get those earrings with birth stones. You can make it a beautiful set for your Mom’s special day.
The most important thing to remember is to make your birthday gift to Mom from daughter means something special. Take the extra time to find something that you know she will enjoy and the satisfaction you’ll receive from seeing the look on her face when she opens the gift is something that money can’t buy.

Can Love Marriage Score Over Arranged Marriage?

chodirin — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 17:41:42 +0000

This argument has been increased number of the nth time, and nobody has ever been able to win this debate.

In India, arranged marriages have always enjoyed the upper hand. Parents think it is the duty, as the best combination for their son or daughter looked through marriage or other sources to be found. Although the perception is changing slowly, and many young people are opting for love marriages, it is still to meet in small towns and communities. The outgoing youth of India today feels that they are mature enough to make such decisions alone. Moreover, they believe that spending the person they intend to continue their rest of their lives, they should be their choice. A look at the number of divorces and separations in urban India, the question of whether you score more love marriages, arranged marriages remain unanswered.

Education and media played an important role in popularizing the concept of love marriages in India.

In the middle of the people love stories like Soni Mahiwal India has always been a long tradition of arranged marriages. Formed with the arrival of the British and the subsequent introduction of the British education system are Indians. Films have influenced the masses, and large classes. The approach is about love and marriage, as shown in the film, not the audience in India and now inspires love marriages as taboo. Also, education and media exposure, have partly changed the mentality of people and now they knew should not be bound by traditions and they can choose their own spouses. And for this they need not depend on parents, pimps, parents, astrologers, or any other form of marriage. This change in the attitudes and opinions on a number of love marriages resulted. Currently in our country we have arranged for us and instead of love marriages.

Talking about love marriages, they need time to mutual understanding between couples, which apparently is necessary for a successful relationship. In this way they are better suited in the marriage when they finally their wedding vows.

In arranged marriages, there is pressure to conform to parental expectations like producing a male heir, taking part in rituals and traditions of the family, putting up with my sisters-in-law, a contribution to the cost Lovers family, etc. must work if their parents do not agree with the relationship. Therefore it is said that love is not a simple solution!

Not all love marriages have happy endings. There are times when disagreement arises even in love marriages. In many cases of conjugal love, having a happy time of marriage are many couples times, regretted their decisions. They are fighting to save the marriage, and finally tries to break. When choosing a car, a perfect partner and have voted no reason why this unfortunate relationship after the wedding?

But there are other effects as well, especially for girls. Sometimes face mold in a new environment, girls have to take initiatives and make further efforts to seduce, to families of their husbands. Parents sometimes do not support their children and keep them for their marriage.

Perhaps to avoid such a situation today, to day, many young people prefer arranged marriages. People have this idea, that arranged marriages, which has only in the East, but it was not always so happens arranged marriages, even in Victorian Europe. The best and safest party in the arranged marriage is that parents and the family is happy, and they arrange the wedding car. There are no tears, and sacrifice for their permission. Arranged marriage is a safe bet for women because it offers more protection and security for women.

It is difficult to be on the other side of the score and choose an ideal, is an endless debate. Whether it is a love marriage or arranged marriage is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and care. It takes a lot of commitment and effort to maintain the relationship. To support and live together throughout life, one needs patience, perseverance, dedication and of course the love and care. If one is able to receive for eternity, and it is definitely an ideal marriage.

Love is important, what happens before or after the marriage is not important. It has happened, and then was followed by happiness, and that the secret to a successful marriage.