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There is a quote attributed to Sigmund Freud, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” He goes in childhood behavior and incidents, they may simply be in the range of normal childhood life. However, in the context of high conflict parents are separated, the simple explanation can be transplanted suspicions and theories extraordinary.

Normal development of young children to explore their infancy body, discover their genitals and the anus and the joy of touching themselves. You are at the stage of toilet training in life and are therefore pulled from the normal behavior of the parents to visit these parts of the body. observed in intact families than children who play engage in self-stimulation and sexual organs, they are either just stop or to the private sector at the right time commitment rather than diverted. are separated in the context of high conflict parents, there is a danger in this behavior, the behavior of children from the loss of a parent attribute. Thus, a parent accidentally to greater attention to children’s behavior and thus increase sustainably, to the conduct at the same time alleging sexual abuse by the other parent.

As preschoolers, children take flight on the playground. You can learn to ride their bikes. It is therefore a time of injury in children, including bruises, met heads and arms broken. In the context of high conflict separation of parents, a parent can be suspicious of child abuse for injuries and use the situation to maintain physical abuse, or at least neglected. However, and again, even in intact families, children can get hurt, bump their heads and fall of the bicycle and playground equipment.

When children of school age try to have their way, they naturally try one against the other parent pit. They are used at all operational strategy. Children can tell that get the other children or to do what you want, or they can tell you that the parents ‘other’ Let them apply. In intact families, parents simply call their children’s behavior manipulation, or at least checking with the other parent to determine what the child says is true. But in the context of high conflict separation of parents can take a parent what the child says, at face value and believe that the other parent meeting their own parents or children’s values.

done in intact families or even between separated parents with good communication normal childhood events do not tend to increase with suspicion and drama. The questions are nipped in the bud and are redirected children appropriate behavior. The injuries are treated without any fanfare. A parent may feel guilty for the violation of a child, but do not blame you.

separately in connection with the high conflict parents, which can take normal childhood behavior and incidents epic proportions. Otherwise, a normal behavior lead to suspicion or be used against a parent in order to undermine parental responsibility. As a parent screams error, the screams of the other parental alienation syndrome. The fight is on, warming to the point of overflowing. The child is caught in the middle and escalate their behavior as a result. Both parents then the child’s behavior as evidence of their own claim against the other.

This is a good evaluation if necessary. The evaluator disentangle normal and abnormal behavior in childhood incidents and determine how the child’s behavior is attributable to just the conflict between parents versus truly sinister behavior is intentionally harming or neglecting a child.

Care if the parents. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, despite suspicion.

Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
(905) 628-4847

Gary @ yoursocialworker. com http://www. yoursocialworker. com

Tags: Behaviour, Between, Childhood, Misconstrued, Normal., Parent's, Separated